i read this from the message post by bd4ji in this bbs, title "so you want to be a dxer ? "
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22. qsling sucks. filling out 1,000s of cards every year just because you happen to live in burkina faso is no fun. hell, living in burkina faso may be no fun. qsl cards cost money and the dx operator may be more concerned with feeding his family than buying a qsl card for your collection. send a sase, some greenstamps, whatever makes it easier. don't just slap a stamp on a qsl and mail it like a postcard. they get tore up, marked up, smeared etc by postal machinery especially if forwarded to another address. put it in an envelope with an sase. if you are in the u.s. put "u.s.a." on your sase. georgia is not just a state, it is a country too...and rhode island may just end up in greece, so just put "u.s.a." on your sase and make it easier for delivery. remember, some countries have trouble with postal theft so don't immediately assume you didn't get your card because the dx operator is a thief. if the qsl is the last courtesy of the qso then your last courtesy should be to send an sase with appropriate funds. (this is true for both domestic and dx qsling.) if you think qsling is easy, volunteer to become a manager.
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